Why we play!


Earlier today my son, Rhys handed me a rock he had recently painted. Like most of our kids he was trying to be creative with his time as we work through the uncertainty of these times. From the gesture and the emotion on his face I knew immediately what it meant.

He misses playing lacrosse, his team, and all that comes with it.

I know that all of our kids miss playing something, they miss the feeling it brings, and they miss the kids they do it with. With so much uncertainty and change in these challenging times I wanted to shed light on a place they can look for certainty and what they can count on because they are on a team. They may not be able to get together at the moment, but when they can here is a reminder of what’s waiting. 

Here are some things we miss:

  • Seeing you guys together.
  • How hard you work in practice. 
  • Your celebrations when we do something great in a game.
  • The way you fight for ground balls.
  • Coaching your effort and energy.
  • Seeing the progress… and the smiles.
  • Seeing the wheels turn, the questions you ask.
  • The way you get excited before each game.
  • How we call ourselves out when we don’t get the job done.
  • How we recognize each other in a good moment.
  • How we all want to make a big play.
  • Seeing you rallying around each other when someone makes a mistake or gets hurt.
  • How you each have goals for what you want to accomplish.
  • How you don’t get hung up on things that aren’t important. 
  • The love and passion you have for the game of lacrosse.

Whether your team competes on a field, in a classroom or in the business world being able to come together with capable people who care in a similar way to accomplish great things in competitive environments is a gift. 

Here’s a quick note I wrote to one of my teams that I hope pertains to anyone who misses their team. I hope this fits for you or someone else in your life. Considering that we all have several different types of teams in our lives – family, work, school, athletics…I am hoping this is helpful. 


For many of us playing a sport has always been a great place to have fun, challenge and express ourselves, and a way to build friendships. 

I like to say that THREE amazing things come out of playing a team sport that eventually can become a life-long approach in every aspect of their lives.

1. We learn to fall in love with playing 

2. We learn to ask for more, and 

3. We learn to invest in our teammates. 


Each of you have found your way to this game(your work) and have developed a relationship with it in your own way. You care about it, you care about the way it makes you feel, you care about the people on your team, and you care about the way you play(pursue it). Those are the ingredients of a great team and a great approach to the way you engage anything. 


In times like these where there is so much uncertainty. I would like to point out what you can be certain of and what you can count on. You can be certain that you are part of this TEAM and you being on it matters. You can be certain that each of us is committed to offering the team everything we are capable of. We offer our compassion, our work ethic, our determination, and our relentless desire to have an impact on the game we are playing so we can all feel good about the outcome.

You can count on the fact that you will always be given a chance to impact the game but that it is up to each of us to take responsibility for what we do with that chance. You can count on the fact that we want you to succeed. You can count on the fact that we actually rely on it. You can be certain that we will ask you to push yourself in directions that you may not push yourself on your own so we can all benefit from what comes of it. For that, you can also count on us to give you a break when you fall short or fail. 

This team is unique – we are all different in what we offer and it wouldn’t be the same if just just one of us wasn’t on it, but in the end we all want the same thing – we want the feelings that come from playing as a team and accomplishing our goals together in a competitive environment. 

So let’s each of us take this break in context to reflect, reset, plan and be ready to engage when they let us get back together. 

Please take a moment to write down in your journal(Start one!): 

  1. 3 things you love about playing(Work).
  2. 3 things you love about this team.
  3. 3 goals you have for yourself and the team.
  4. 3 things great teammates do. 

In the end no one can take away the memories we create, the process we use to compete and our friendships. Those are the gifts we get to have always.

Play your game! Be intentional, and champion your teammates.

Coach Phil 

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